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Everyone stop what you're doing! It's happening! GW's own Alu is having a baby!! Come and congratulate him here: Need some help identifying this picture.
We're so happy for you, Alu!Actual image of Ben and Ants confronting each other in a thread.
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How is sperm off topic when the topic is a baby?
Still takes a little white missile even with IVF.
How fun indeed!Other fun fact. The father's genes are what build the placenta.
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How Dad’s preconception health impacts the placenta—and ultimately, his baby
The push and pull of maternal and paternal genesnaturalwomanhood.org
Actual question: when did you all start looking into and touring daycare?
I started calling places in my 3rd trimester. I hear these days you have to start putting your name on lists as soon as you know your pregnant. I think it depends on where you live. We've had a lot of daycares close around here, so with fewer spots it can be hard to find a spot.How fun indeed!
I also took care of the pre-placenta work required in IVF with the progesterone injections every night. Once again, my childhood being surrounded by injections for medical reasons (my mom was always in the hospital) made it so I could handle that sort of thing.
Actual question: when did you all start looking into and touring daycare?
The places near here seem to be a mixed bag, especially when looking at bi-lingual ones. I see a couple who say they currently have openings, and then one of them (the one that's over $3000 per month) says they have waitlists for various months through 2027.
Didn't. I think the first daycare my oldest went to was just the closest one to our house. It wasn't that kind of "prepare like rational adults" pregnancy though, as I was 25 and her 22. We didn't know shit about fuck.Actual question: when did you all start looking into and touring daycare?
Yeah, be prepared to pay a second rent/mortgage to the daycare. They're fucking pricey and have definitely contributed to be staying poor.The places near here seem to be a mixed bag, especially when looking at bi-lingual ones. I see a couple who say they currently have openings, and then one of them (the one that's over $3000 per month) says they have waitlists for various months through 2027.
I will never understand the wait lists you have to be on before you are even pregnant. How does that work out? Like logisticly it boggles my mind.The places near here seem to be a mixed bag, especially when looking at bi-lingual ones. I see a couple who say they currently have openings, and then one of them (the one that's over $3000 per month) says they have waitlists for various months through 2027.
Joke's on you. I'm the one sipping a mai tai under the tree in the north pretending to want the thread on topic and instead watching the chaos.See that tree in the bottom right corner? I’m getting stoned under it. Over there on the left by the signal? That’s where @Jon is posted up begging someone to pay attention to the topic at hand.
Little does he know…
Penis conversations are always at hand.
There are all kinds all around us. The trick for us is finding one that can help with Mandarin.Didn't. I think the first daycare my oldest went to was just the closest one to our house. It wasn't that kind of "prepare like rational adults" pregnancy though, as I was 25 and her 22. We didn't know shit about fuck.
After I moved here, we'd just traded off while working from home, until we got both my daughter and youngest son into a decent one nearby.
Yeah, be prepared to pay a second rent/mortgage to the daycare. They're fucking pricey and have definitely contributed to be staying poor.
So you're just watching Ants and I joust? Pervert.Joke's on you. I'm the one sipping a mai tai under the tree in the north pretending to want the thread on topic and instead watching the chaos.
Kind of like Willy Wonka telling the spoiled brats "oh no, don't touch that." But sarcastically.
I have experience with East Boston, where my ex moved with our son, and it's largely Hispanic people, so I can imagine similar for an Asian community. Weird how segregated those groups are.There are all kinds all around us. The trick for us is finding one that can help with Mandarin.
The first (hopefully) month or so my mother-in-law will be around, but that's obviously not the key learning time.
There are some options that are more affordable near us, including a home daycare that has at least one opening that does both Mandarin and Cantonese. So we'll likely want to start reaching out to a few of those places. We thankfully live just next to the largest population of Chinese people north of Boston. Just over a quarter of the population is Asian, actually, with most of them being Chinese or Taiwanese. This helps a bit with having that available with more than a few options.
If it makes you happy, I have my money on you because you'll just butter him up with AI images of ants and eggplants.So you're just watching Ants and I joust? Pervert.
If I could find one for that price in the area I might sign up a second kid just for fun.For daycare you have to start as soon as you can and see if you can find one you like that will save a spot.
My wife gets frantic calls from parents a month or two away from birth desperate for a spot. It can be hard out there to get into a daycare that you want.
If Mandarin wasn't a deal breaker and you want to commute over an hour, 2 with traffic, my wife only charges $900 per month! Meals and potty training included! Most of the children are walking by 8 months! We have one spot remaining!
For $900 a month, I would consider driving from NYCFor daycare you have to start as soon as you can and see if you can find one you like that will save a spot.
My wife gets frantic calls from parents a month or two away from birth desperate for a spot. It can be hard out there to get into a daycare that you want.
If Mandarin wasn't a deal breaker and you want to commute over an hour, 2 with traffic, my wife only charges $900 per month! Meals and potty training included! Most of the children are walking by 8 months! We have one spot remaining!
Is this like one of those flatworm things, where you guys fence/joust with your dicks and the one who loses gets pregnant?So you're just watching Ants and I joust? Pervert.
... It is now.Shit, you guys have to pay for daycare? Damn.
Is this like one of those flatworm things, where you guys fence/joust with your dicks and the one who loses gets pregnant?
No you get the first one, gohas anyone done a naming joke yet
hey alu you have lots of names will your child have lots of namesNo you get the first one, go
Prepare to get pregnAnts!
I thought we agreed to name him/her Ants to keep up with the letter A thing.hey alu you have lots of names will your child have lots of names
I sadly do not speak it. I took classes at one point, but I could never get beyond just knowing a few things, because I have no reason to attempt to use it daily.Very late to this by the standards of this site, but congratulations! I am obviously no help with daycare, but my household is bilingual. I don't know if this has been covered, but do you speak Mandarin?
I'm slow to learn French, which I want to do because of my mother and her family, and also from living in Louisiana that has a larger French-speaking population than the rest of the country. I'm still making progress though, however slow, because I got my daily streak on Duolingo up to 720 days so far. I've read that a few minutes a day does better than an occasional big long binge.I sadly do not speak it. I took classes at one point, but I could never get beyond just knowing a few things, because I have no reason to attempt to use it daily.
Duolingo is also not great for trying to learn Mandarin, even my wife said I probably shouldn't bother with that. I was using another app for a while, but you need to pay for that one.I'm slow to learn French, which I want to do because of my mother and her family, and also from living in Louisiana that has a larger French-speaking population than the rest of the country. I'm still making progress though, however slow, because I got my daily streak on Duolingo up to 720 days so far. I've read that a few minutes a day does better than an occasional big long binge.
Have you checked your local library to see if any of the online databases they offer has a language-learning one? Ours for example has Muzzy which is for kids, but also has Mango which isn't as flashy as Duolingo but is also better in some areas, for example showing the french sentence next to the english sentence with the words color-coded to help them match visually, for visual learners.Duolingo is also not great for trying to learn Mandarin, even my wife said I probably shouldn't bother with that. I was using another app for a while, but you need to pay for that one.
Yeah, some languages are harder because they are more different or have fewer similarities than your native one. I think having a different alphabet for example would probably be an indicator of that. At least with French I only need to learn like maybe five accent marks that aren't used in English words.Learning Mandarin is just very difficult full stop. I regret not making more of an effort of it when I had the chance, but hey ho.
Of note:Yeah, some languages are harder because they are more different or have fewer similarities than your native one. I think having a different alphabet for example would probably be an indicator of that. At least with French I only need to learn like maybe five accent marks that aren't used in English words.
Fair. I know we often hear how English is similarly difficult for non-native speakers to learn. Like "lead" and "lead" can also mean two different things depending on how you pronounce it, like in your example.Of note:
Earlier in this thread Ben was talking about steamed buns known as bao. I responded and mentioned that when voiced differently bao also means hug.
Mmm, bao bao.Of note:
Earlier in this thread Ben was talking about steamed buns known as bao. I responded and mentioned that when voiced differently bao also means hug.
Name the baby: A baby![]()
Also, the baby should be named A Name Haver.
I'm going to follow up on this later, but don't have the time right now. Just replying to acknowledge it. Classic Jamie-esq long post with a story incoming. But later.I sadly do not speak it. I took classes at one point, but I could never get beyond just knowing a few things, because I have no reason to attempt to use it daily.
I often hear from native Arabic speakers that learning English is easier for them than learning Arabic in school. The sort of Arabic that the Quran is written in. I think an equivalent would be like us learning how to speak and write in Old English. It seems like a completely different language.Fair. I know we often hear how English is similarly difficult for non-native speakers to learn. Like "lead" and "lead" can also mean two different things depending on how you pronounce it, like in your example.
I'm going to follow up on this later, but don't have the time right now. Just replying to acknowledge it. Classic Jamie-esq long post with a story incoming. But later.