99 Pitch Perfect Game for German
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Dude Maddux'd a perfect game. 99 pitches.
Reddit has been up this guy's ass for slapping his GF (Edit: He supposedly beat her, too, but the slap was in public) , but this person had a quite reasonable defense:
"In no way do I condone what German did, but honestly, at what point do you move past it? He went to rehab and anger management, has become a advocate for battered women, married his girlfriend (the victim) and his team has clearly forgiven him.
Why have programs like that if you're never going to forgive a person? This is the equivalent of someone being arrested for burglary, and they serve a year in prison, open up a nonprofit for troubled teens, make efforts for years to improve themselves and earn back the love of their family, and every time you see them for the rest of their lives you just say "hey remember when you robbed that store, you piece of shit?"
You can remember, but at some point you have to move past it, otherwise we might as well not have rehab programs."
Reddit has been up this guy's ass for slapping his GF (Edit: He supposedly beat her, too, but the slap was in public) , but this person had a quite reasonable defense:
"In no way do I condone what German did, but honestly, at what point do you move past it? He went to rehab and anger management, has become a advocate for battered women, married his girlfriend (the victim) and his team has clearly forgiven him.
Why have programs like that if you're never going to forgive a person? This is the equivalent of someone being arrested for burglary, and they serve a year in prison, open up a nonprofit for troubled teens, make efforts for years to improve themselves and earn back the love of their family, and every time you see them for the rest of their lives you just say "hey remember when you robbed that store, you piece of shit?"
You can remember, but at some point you have to move past it, otherwise we might as well not have rehab programs."
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I did not know about thst or I wouldn't have even posted it.
*at no point* do you move past it. abuse is unacceptable in any and all forms. I came from an abusive home, I have dealt with children and families of abusive homes. at no point is that ever ignored.
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I don't think you, the victim, should have to, especially if there was never any remorse from the abuser. Nor should it be ignored. I don't think that user was suggesting it. What they were suggesting is that if the former abuser has seemingly gone out of their way to show that they're not that person anymore, why should the rest of use who have no involvement in their circumstances have any reason to condemn thme for life.
That said, I only posted it because I figured someone would end up mentioning it. I probably should have waited. My bad.
Also, if it comes off like I'm purposely trying to rile you up, I apologize, that is definitely not my intention.
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But was he on LSD when he did it?
That’s a loaded question, because it’s purely circumstantial… but, by and far… most people that abuse others have a tendency to repeat history and further escalate to the point of incarceration if left unchecked.
That’s not to say someone cannot be abusive, recognize it or have it pointed out to them, and turn over a new leaf. But… realistically… how often does that happen? How many instances have you seen in your personal life where someone abused someone else, and then it ended as an isolated incident?
You almost have to look at rehabilitation programs for people like that as steps to protect the victims, because first and foremost… that’s what they’re there for. Anger management, counseling, etc. are all “after the fact” treatments that are intended to treat an individual that has affected someone else with some form abuse so they don’t repeat the action. Like driver’s improvement programs, or similar… just because you attended a program doesn’t mean you’re not gonna drive drunk or recklessly again, it just means that you’re made aware of the implications of doing so and there’s no longer deniability.
It’s easy to look at these kinda things and say “well, I hurt someone’s feelings before…” or “well… my friend slapped a phone out of his girl’s hand and knew it was wrong and never did it again” and dismiss it as and isolated incident, but the fact is… when people get to a point where they’re committing these acts in public, in front of others… it begs the question… what’s going on behind closed doors?
Now… that’s not to say there isn’t redemption, but… it’s a lifelong process. If you’re someone who abused your kid, you have to live with that for the rest of your days whether you like it or not. Burying it, acting like it never happened, or expecting your child to just forget about it is unrealistic. Those are just to make the perpetrator feel better, not the victim. The ONLY thing that is acceptable is, not necessarily constant acknowledgment, but constant awareness that there is a part of you that you have to actively maintain control over… no different than a drunk or an addict.
As far as victims go? Whether you’re participating in therapy or just coping independently… it’s not healthy to make being an abuse victim a part of your identity. It shapes who you are, but it is a dangerous characteristic to carry with you in life. It sets you up for viewing everyone in that light… waiting for the next person to take a swing or manipulate your emotions in their favor, or… worse yet… putting a wall up and isolating yourself to the point where you become the only person that can hurt you.
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