I didn't want to change my name but...

[Fool's Requiem]

If you seriosuly ask if this is a Jojo reference, I will look down upon you forever.

Edit: I'm not going to bump this thread. If you see it, you see it. If you don't, NBD.

I have no story. I didn't go through any major hardships like many others. I'm just coasting through life with the sole aim of living as comfortable a life as I can. Not a well off life, because that requires too much effort, just a comfortable one. One without worry or stress.

The one big problem on my end is that I'm a loner. I interact with people at work, but that's about it. I don't go out looking for friends, and I haven't been on a date in over a decade. Even worse on that front, I'm still a virgin who hasn't kissed a single person on the lips. I'm almost 40, and I feel that I've gotten to the point of no return simply on the never been kissed fact. I don't talk to my family much and don't use them as support nor would I want to. I worry that if something were to negatively impact my life and force me to lean on my folks for support, I'd have to hear about Jesus and God and whatnot, so I mostly avoid talking to them, unless necessary. That said, we did have a get-together last year at the outer banks and the plan is to do it again next year. I also did visit my grandmother who lives in California in May.

I like to travel, I like to eat, and I like anime. Used to go to the movie theater a lot until COVID hit, then anime and Youtube became my primary sources of digital entertainment. I love amusment parks and roller coasters.

That's all. There's other stuff, but nothing major.

 

[Crystal]

Is that a Jojo reference? Also...what's a Jojo?



Kidding, welcome home

 

[Acolyte Players]

Is that a Jojo reference? Also...what's a Jojo?



Kidding, welcome home

It's a movie about a rabbit, I think.

 

[Crystal]

It's a movie about a rabbit, I think.

Ah, of course! All those kids and the man with the silly facial hair!

 

[Nebulous]

Welcome to GW Forums!

 

[Marlfox]

Don’t feel bad.

People put sexual relationships and “the one” on too much of a pedestal. If you’re generally happy, you already have the key benefit that these things bring. So don’t pursue them unless you actually want to.

Society reckons everyone needs to follow its 5 step plan to happiness: university, job, wedding, children, grandchildren (in that order or else); but society is wrong. It can’t tell you what makes you happy. Only you know the path to your own happiness.

Keep being comfortable, dude

 

[Ants!]

Thanks for sharing with us.

Just curious, are dating and sex things you’re not that interested in, or that you are and they just haven’t happened? I’m just curious as to whether you’d want advice before we all just assume and start offering it unsolicited.

 

[Mark]

If you seriosuly ask if this is a Jojo reference, I will look down upon you forever.

Edit: I'm not going to bump this thread. If you see it, you see it. If you don't, NBD.

I have no story. I didn't go through any major hardships like many others. I'm just coasting through life with the sole aim of living as comfortable a life as I can. Not a well off life, because that requires too much effort, just a comfortable one. One without worry or stress.

The one big problem on my end is that I'm a loner. I interact with people at work, but that's about it. I don't go out looking for friends, and I haven't been on a date in over a decade. Even worse on that front, I'm still a virgin who hasn't kissed a single person on the lips. I'm almost 40, and I feel that I've gotten to the point of no return simply on the never been kissed fact. I don't talk to my family much and don't use them as support nor would I want to. I worry that if something were to negatively impact my life and force me to lean on my folks for support, I'd have to hear about Jesus and God and whatnot, so I mostly avoid talking to them, unless necessary. That said, we did have a get-together last year at the outer banks and the plan is to do it again next year. I also did visit my grandmother who lives in California in May.

I like to travel, I like to eat, and I like anime. Used to go to the movie theater a lot until COVID hit, then anime and Youtube became my primary sources of digital entertainment. I love amusment parks and roller coasters.

That's all. There's other stuff, but nothing major.

I just caught the edit to this when Ants! posted. You kinda told us your story by telling us you don’t have a story, dude. There’s nothing wrong with living the life of a loner as long as that’s what you wanna do. The fact that a goal in your life is a lack of stress and worry is one most people don’t get to dream of because they end up taking different roads, so understandably… it may come at a cost of relationships that could bring on stress and worry.

As far as your relationship history, having a blank slate is better than having a vandalized one… I’ll tell you that much from my own experiences. “Peace” and a lack of “worry” were definitely not on the table for me through a good part of my relationship history. The ONLY relationship I’ve ever felt 100% confident in is the one I’m in, and I wasn’t even looking for it. With that said… don’t feel like the clock is ticking, you miss out on the present that way… when the right person comes along, it’ll hit you like a brick shit house and everything will fall right into place. It sounds cheesy as fuck, and I never believed it myself up until I was in my mid-30’s… but it’s true shit. As far as the blurred part… good on you for not being ashamed of it. That’s a good sign. Most people that are ashamed of being virgins later in life end up having worse luck than those that just unapologetically put it out there. I know a dude that didn’t lose his until he required a pill to make his dick work in his late 40’s, and guess what? He’s married and doing just fine with a kid now and was doing just fine beforehand when he cracked jokes about being a permavirgin.

As far as your folks and apprehension about leaning on them… Man, I feel you on that, and mine aren’t even religious like that. The best thing you can do is exactly what you’re doing now, but if worse comes to worst… if they’re decent folks, they should still be there even if your ideologies clash. Part of being decent folks is respecting people with different beliefs.

 

[Fool's Requiem]

Thanks for sharing with us.

Just curious, are dating and sex things you’re not that interested in, or that you are and they just haven’t happened? I’m just curious as to whether you’d want advice before we all just assume and start offering it unsolicited.

Right, so to say I wouldn't be interested in dating would be a lie. To be able to share experiences with someone of a like mind is something I'm definitely interested in. However, to say I felt motivated to find someone like that would also be a lie.

I will often find excuses to not interact with people, especially people I don't know and I often have to fight with the fact that I typically prefer to be alone. My folks bought me a house warming present, it's a welcome sign that has a back side that says "Go away". I have often expressed my displeasure of talking to people on the phone, feeling genuinely annoyed when people call me... even if its my folks. If I have a conversation, I need it to be something deemed worthy of my time or at least something of substance. Someone starting a chat or text message with "Hey" or "How's it going" is super irritating. Talk about something I'm not interested all you want, and I'll try to at least follow along. Start a convo with "sup" is like a one way trip to me giving you a "bad attitude.

I dislike bars, I dislike clubs, I have no interest in libraries. I'm not interested in table top gaming (there's a place nearby where I live that seems to be pretty popular). Not going to meet anyone going bowling. I went to baseball games when I was in Cleveland quite often and never really hit it off with randos. Amusement parks are definitely not a place for someone my age to go looking for potential dates. Dating sites will not really work for me and haven't really. Few conversations here and there, but nothing really substantial. I do dress pretty well when in public and keep myself clean.

I don't really have "friends" that I can ask to start a meet and greet kind of think. Most people I know are married with kids and I don't make lasting friendships anyway. Every time I move, I tend to stop talking to people after a while.

I do not have an issue talking to people in person and actually prefer it if I need to talk to people (which is the complete opposite of something a normal introvert would say). My thing is that it takes me a while to get a feeling of people so I know how to talk to them properly. As a result, I am probably the worst at first impressions. Either I'll come off as rude or uncooperative, or just uncomfortable/shy.

Oh... my eyes wander. When talking to women especially, I am constantly worried about glancing at their chest even if that is absolutely not the case, so I will just stare off into space. I do it with males, too, except when I look in their direction, I will often feel like I'm staring right through them while my mind pays attention to the conversation I'm having.

Uh.... I think I rambled on for long enough. You don't need to assist if you don't want. Odds are I'll come up with more excuses to not follow through with suggestions and could lead to frustration on your part.

At the end of the day, like I said earlier, I'm not really that motivated to finding an SO and am comfortable with maintaining the status quo despite feeling like I could have a more enjoyable life spending it with someone else. I know my road trips would be more fun.