What have you been up to?

[Crystal]

What's been going on with everyone of late? Anything interesting? Let's have ourselves a nice little chat thread

 

[A Slightly New Used Server]

I've been working in cleantech since graduating from college. Still in the Boston area. Got married...had an awesome, but very belated, honeymoon down in Mexico. Things have been good,

 

[Crystal]

I've been working in cleantech since graduating from college. Still in the Boston area. Got married...had an awesome, but very belated, honeymoon down in Mexico. Things have been good,

Sounds fantastic, congratulations on everything! Living the good life

 

[A Slightly New Used Server]

Once I get some more time I'll post some good photos from that honeymoon. Just got back a couple of weeks ago.

 

[Crystal]

Once I get some more time I'll post some good photos from that honeymoon. Just got back a couple of weeks ago.

Excellent! No rush, if I have my say this forum isn't going to just disappear one day

 

[Mark]

It really depends on how far we wanna go back here…

My original hiatus from GW was due to moving into my first apartment that didn’t support DSL at the time. That was way back when I was still an admin. I returned as a member for a while, ultimately vanishing again right around when my ex got pregnant with our daughter… who is now 15. That relationship went to shit, she had a thing for relations with co-workers… a trend that reappeared a few other times in other relationships. I was really bad at picking ‘em back then. I spent a lot of my teen through early adult years learning the upholstery trade, working in the family business and climbing up the ranks there. That business went under when I was in my mid-20’s, so I became a repossession agent, as we were pretty well into the recession at the time… Job security, right? Over the years, I did pretty decent for myself, ultimately training other agents across the Mid-Atlantic and Northeastern region acting as a consultant, up until I ran into a string of incidents on the job over a short period of time that did a number on me. I spent the pandemic collecting a severance package after that industry dried up due to federal and state moratoriums.

These days… I’m living a much safer life. Repossessing cars in the middle of riots are a thing of the past. I wasn’t just a bastard online because I could close threads and stuff… I was a bastard everywhere for a long time. I made a career out of it, until it nearly killed me.

 

[Crystal]

It really depends on how far we wanna go back here…

My original hiatus from GW was due to moving into my first apartment that didn’t support DSL at the time. That was way back when I was still an admin. I returned as a member for a while, ultimately vanishing again right around when my ex got pregnant with our daughter… who is now 15. That relationship went to shit, she had a thing for relations with co-workers… a trend that reappeared a few other times in other relationships. I was really bad at picking ‘em back then. I spent a lot of my teen through early adult years learning the upholstery trade, working in the family business and climbing up the ranks there. That business went under when I was in my mid-20’s, so I became a repossession agent, as we were pretty well into the recession at the time… Job security, right? Over the years, I did pretty decent for myself, ultimately training other agents across the Mid-Atlantic and Northeastern region acting as a consultant, up until I ran into a string of incidents on the job over a short period of time that did a number on me. I spent the pandemic collecting a severance package after that industry dried up due to federal and state moratoriums.

These days… I’m living a much safer life. Repossessing cars in the middle of riots are a thing of the past. I wasn’t just a bastard online because I could close threads and stuff… I was a bastard everywhere for a long time. I made a career out of it, until it nearly killed me.

Damn, that definitely sounds like a tough line of work to get into! Definitely the right industry for the times, though, and getting to the point of training others is a great thing! Glad things are a bit more tame these days

 

[Mark]

Damn, that definitely sounds like a tough line of work to get into! Definitely the right industry for the times, though, and getting to the point of training others is a great thing! Glad things are a bit more tame these days

It definitely was, but I found a way to refine the process and make it a lot safer for agents… at the cost of my own safety. I racked up a lot of miles and experiences, translated that into a training course, and have helped do my part to make sure my people get home to their loved ones in the mornings and the people down on their luck get treated with dignity, while the assholes that value property over lives (banks or debtors) get treated accordingly.

 

[Crystal]

It definitely was, but I found a way to refine the process and make it a lot safer for agents… at the cost of my own safety. I racked up a lot of miles and experiences, translated that into a training course, and have helped do my part to make sure my people get home to their loved ones in the mornings and the people down on their luck get treated with dignity, while the assholes that value property over lives (banks or debtors) get treated accordingly.

Sounds like you were perfect for the role! I lost a car or two along the way, I never made trouble for the repo guy, it wasn't his fault I lost everything, but seeing what some of them deal with out there is scary! Glad you found ways to make it more tolerable for those on the front line of that nightmare situation!

 

[Holly]

I'm married now and have a daughter. She turns 4 this summer. Original hiatus from GW was due to a manipulative ex, I don't recommend going through that. Been with my husband for 11 years now. I did finish my Bachelors degree but I never used it. That would have required moving to an area with more job opportunities and life threw me a few curveballs. So now I'm a stay at home mom. Nothing too interesting has happened in my life, really.

 

[Crystal]

I'm married now and have a daughter. She turns 4 this summer. Original hiatus from GW was due to a manipulative ex, I don't recommend going through that. Been with my husband for 11 years now. I did finish my Bachelors degree but I never used it. That would have required moving to an area with more job opportunities and life threw me a few curveballs. So now I'm a stay at home mom. Nothing too interesting has happened in my life, really.

Congratulations on getting married, and on your daughter! Stay at home mothers are warriors, dealing with all that kids throw at them! Don't sell yourself short, any given day can turn interesting with a child around

 

[Danny]

Working mostly (I work in McDonald's) Between work, I've gotten back into swimming and walking. I'm also (slowly) writing things. Old hobby I did some years ago that I've been craving to get back into.

 

[Crystal]

Writing's a great hobby! Definitely worth pursuing

 

[Olga]

I'm married now and have a daughter. She turns 4 this summer. Original hiatus from GW was due to a manipulative ex, I don't recommend going through that. Been with my husband for 11 years now. I did finish my Bachelors degree but I never used it. That would have required moving to an area with more job opportunities and life threw me a few curveballs. So now I'm a stay at home mom. Nothing too interesting has happened in my life, really.

Speaking as someone whose life is unusually chaotic and eventful, I don’t think you are missing out. There is a lot to be said for family, and for life partners. I have no doubt I am shortening my own life due to the never-ending turbulence.

 

[Ants!]

Been married, had a child, divorced, and then married again last week. We are a family of six now. Trying to transition from having a full-time job to running a wood crafting business from home. Also, trying to finally write this fantasy trilogy that I’ve had developing in my mind since high school, I’ve written the first draft of the first two books so far. That’s been on hiatus since I met my wife almost a year ago, so I’m looking to find a way to start seriously working on that again soon.

 

[Mark]

I'm married now and have a daughter. She turns 4 this summer. Original hiatus from GW was due to a manipulative ex, I don't recommend going through that. Been with my husband for 11 years now. I did finish my Bachelors degree but I never used it. That would have required moving to an area with more job opportunities and life threw me a few curveballs. So now I'm a stay at home mom. Nothing too interesting has happened in my life, really.

You didn’t do wrong by avoiding more urban areas, I can assure you of that. I spent years traveling to and working out of the big east coast cities, and you’re not missing much.

Working mostly (I work in McDonald's) Between work, I've gotten back into swimming and walking. I'm also (slowly) writing things. Old hobby I did some years ago that I've been craving to get back into.

Stick with it, even if it’s 15-20 minutes a day. You can’t lose the things you’re passionate about to everyday life, otherwise you become just another drone going through the motions. I’m sure if this place kicks up, you’ll have a platform to spitball ideas.

Speaking as someone whose life is unusually chaotic and eventful, I don’t think you are missing out. There is a lot to be said for family, and for life partners. I have no doubt I am shortening my own life due to the never-ending turbulence.

Olga! Always one of my favorites to see pop up, as you were always on the move even back then. Family and relationship drama follows all of us, everywhere. It’s unavoidable, unfortunately. Glad to see that you’re still hanging in there. You’re one of the first people I thought of when shit hit the fan over there with Putin and Zelensky’s penis measuring competition.

Been married, had a child, divorced, and then married again last week. We are a family of six now. Trying to transition from having a full-time job to running a wood crafting business from home. Also, trying to finally write this fantasy trilogy that I’ve had developing in my mind since high school, I’ve written the first draft of the first two books so far. That’s been on hiatus since I met my wife almost a year ago, so I’m looking to find a way to start seriously working on that again soon.

If I had a dollar for every friend that put their projects on the backburner for failed marriages and everyday life, I could probably either retire or afford a combo at a fast food place in 2026. Glad to see you’re getting back into it, and definitely wouldn’t mind checking out what you’re working on when it goes public.

 

[Bandicoot]

Left bar work for game/Gamestation retail. Varying reasons saw the end of that and I’ve spent ten years mucking around with mobile phones. Have a mortgage. Learned to drive. Never married. Uh… anything else?

 

[Mark]

Left bar work for game/Gamestation retail. Varying reasons saw the end of that and I’ve spent ten years mucking around with mobile phones. Have a mortgage. Learned to drive. Never married. Uh… anything else?

Did you really learn to drive if you’re still doing it on the wrong side of the road? Good job on not getting that ring sized, though. I hear it’s the leading cause of divorce… I avoid it like I avoid any other STD’s.

 

[Fool's Requiem]

I bought a house because I was sick of renting. I could have "retired" from my military career this last September but the retirement pension would not have been enough and would have required me to get another job so that I can have a comfortable life. So, I'm trying to stretch it out to a 30 year career and make it to a higher rank to where my retirement pension is high enough that I'll never have to work again. Then I can just do whatever I want and go wherever I want without having to worry about the fact that I have to get back so that I can go back to work.

I've been hating the fact that I am forced to waste the best years of my life working and that we work to achieve a retirement that a) we could possibly not live to see b) not be able to do anything that we would have liked to do because father time is undefeated. I do not want to be working still in my 60s.

 

[Bandicoot]

It was surprisingly recent. But you’ll be amazed how much easier it is to give way to the right when you drive on the left.

 

[Mark]

I bought a house because I was sick of renting. I could have "retired" from my military career this last September but the retirement pension would not have been enough and would have required me to get another job so that I can have a comfortable life. So, I'm trying to stretch it out to a 30 year career and make it to a higher rank to where my retirement pension is high enough that I'll never have to work again. Then I can just do whatever I want and go wherever I want without having to worry about the fact that I have to get back so that I can go back to work.

I've been hating the fact that I am forced to waste the best years of my life working and that we work to achieve a retirement that a) we could possibly not live to see b) not be able to do anything that we would have liked to do because father time is undefeated. I do not want to be working still in my 60s.

The sad part is… you do all of that for a pat on the back, a certificate, and the occasional “thanks for your service” while you whittle away your years for Uncle Sam. My best friend, a military guy, was medically discharged. VA left him hanging. He ended up sustaining an injury during a fall in a tiled bathroom, ultimately dying several months later due to the complications. You’re doing right by laying the groundwork for future you… but don’t forget to live a little while you’re still on the grind, because none of us are promised tomorrow. I hate that cliche, but the older I get… the more the truth of it stings a little more.

 

[Crystal]

Been married, had a child, divorced, and then married again last week. We are a family of six now. Trying to transition from having a full-time job to running a wood crafting business from home. Also, trying to finally write this fantasy trilogy that I’ve had developing in my mind since high school, I’ve written the first draft of the first two books so far. That’s been on hiatus since I met my wife almost a year ago, so I’m looking to find a way to start seriously working on that again soon.

Wow, good luck with the wood crafting business, I hope it turns into a success! Congrats on the marriage, as well . Definitely keep pursuing the writing, it could easily take you to great places!

Left bar work for game/Gamestation retail. Varying reasons saw the end of that and I’ve spent ten years mucking around with mobile phones. Have a mortgage. Learned to drive. Never married. Uh… anything else?

Ah, but the true question -- what is it you drive around in?

I bought a house because I was sick of renting. I could have "retired" from my military career this last September but the retirement pension would not have been enough and would have required me to get another job so that I can have a comfortable life. So, I'm trying to stretch it out to a 30 year career and make it to a higher rank to where my retirement pension is high enough that I'll never have to work again. Then I can just do whatever I want and go wherever I want without having to worry about the fact that I have to get back so that I can go back to work.

I've been hating the fact that I am forced to waste the best years of my life working and that we work to achieve a retirement that a) we could possibly not live to see b) not be able to do anything that we would have liked to do because father time is undefeated. I do not want to be working still in my 60s.

That's a tough decision to have to make, for sure. Very similar to a decision a friend of mine had to make where he wound up retiring from the Air Force and works now for the CBP as an officer. All the best, hopefully you get to a point where you can indeed retire and be comfortable for life!

The sad part is… you do all of that for a pat on the back, a certificate, and the occasional “thanks for your service” while you whittle away your years for Uncle Sam. My best friend, a military guy, was medically discharged. VA left him hanging. He ended up sustaining an injury during a fall in a tiled bathroom, ultimately dying several months later due to the complications. You’re doing right by laying the groundwork for future you… but don’t forget to live a little while you’re still on the grind, because none of us are promised tomorrow. I hate that cliche, but the older I get… the more the truth of it stings a little more.

Oh that's awful, what a way to go.

 

[Bandicoot]

Toyota Aygo. Not a petrol head. Just need something that goes broom broom to and from work.

 

[Crystal]

I don't blame you, it's the same for me. I have a car because it's the only way to get anywhere out here in Arizona, but outside of being a mode of transport, blue, and a Nissan Rogue Sport, I couldn't tell you much about it

 

[Fool's Requiem]

The sad part is… you do all of that for a pat on the back, a certificate, and the occasional “thanks for your service” while you whittle away your years for Uncle Sam. My best friend, a military guy, was medically discharged. VA left him hanging. He ended up sustaining an injury during a fall in a tiled bathroom, ultimately dying several months later due to the complications. You’re doing right by laying the groundwork for future you… but don’t forget to live a little while you’re still on the grind, because none of us are promised tomorrow. I hate that cliche, but the older I get… the more the truth of it stings a little more.

So, because I've reached retirement age, I get access to Tricare for the rest of my life if I so choose. It's not the greatest coverage, but I'm unlikely to need to worry about where my medical coverage is coming from. I imagine it's more of an issue for people who don't/can't stick it out for 20+ years.

I'm also definitely taking advantage of my years now. I work my 8 hours and go home and relax, have fun, or "fix" more stuff in my home. I'm getting back into theme parks and roller coasters now that all major parks are pretty much back up to pre-COVID operations. I've been traveling to places I've not been to yet. I'd love to do snowboarding more often than once in a blue moon, but the weather is almost never good for it making me need to go to expensive locations like Aspen (100% a place worth visiting, BTW). Oh, and I LOVE finding new awesome places to eat at. Fuck, I love good food. I've pretty much made a list and have been actively recommending places people should check out.

 

[Fool's Requiem]

Toyota Aygo. Not a petrol head. Just need something that goes broom broom to and from work.

I hate how you Europeans get all the manual transmission cars, and we get the lousy CVTs...

 

[Mark]

So, because I've reached retirement age, I get access to Tricare for the rest of my life if I so choose. It's not the greatest coverage, but I'm unlikely to need to worry about where my medical coverage is coming from. I imagine it's more of an issue for people who don't/can't stick it out for 20+ years.

I'm also definitely taking advantage of my years now. I work my 8 hours and go home and relax, have fun, or "fix" more stuff in my home. I'm getting back into theme parks and roller coasters now that all major parks are pretty much back up to pre-COVID operations. I've been traveling to places I've not been to yet. I'd love to do snowboarding more often than once in a blue moon, but the weather is almost never good for it making me need to go to expensive locations like Aspen (100% a place worth visiting, BTW). Oh, and I LOVE finding new awesome places to eat at. Fuck, I love good food. I've pretty much made a list and have been actively recommending places people should check out.

That’s good to hear, dude. The healthcare system is a joke, so having that locked down alone is a weight off of your mind, I’m sure. Part of me wonders if everything will truly return to pre-COVID times. I think that really played a big role in the divide we see nowadays… having everyone sitting home on their asses while simultaneously clawing their way through survival mode truly showed a lot of people for what they really are. Then… the governments. Phew. That control exercise couldn’t have went better for them.

 

[Spiner202]

I can't quite remember what age I was when GW went down, but I was probably in University. Since then, I finished school, bounced around a few jobs in accounting, and am plugging away in an adjacent field now. I bought a condo a few years ago that I am aggressive trying (and failing) to pay off.

I feel like most people I meet in my city (Toronto) have an end goal of moving to the suburbs and having kids but I'm just the opposite. I love living downtown, in a smaller place than a house, and being on my own. I go to concerts all the time, and have basically no obligations other than work, so I have tons of freedom.

 

[Crystal]

I can't quite remember what age I was when GW went down, but I was probably in University. Since then, I finished school, bounced around a few jobs in accounting, and am plugging away in an adjacent field now. I bought a condo a few years ago that I am aggressive trying (and failing) to pay off.

I feel like most people I meet in my city (Toronto) have an end goal of moving to the suburbs and having kids but I'm just the opposite. I love living downtown, in a smaller place than a house, and being on my own. I go to concerts all the time, and have basically no obligations other than work, so I have tons of freedom.

Sounds like a fun way to live, that's great

 

[Mark]

I can't quite remember what age I was when GW went down, but I was probably in University. Since then, I finished school, bounced around a few jobs in accounting, and am plugging away in an adjacent field now. I bought a condo a few years ago that I am aggressive trying (and failing) to pay off.

I feel like most people I meet in my city (Toronto) have an end goal of moving to the suburbs and having kids but I'm just the opposite. I love living downtown, in a smaller place than a house, and being on my own. I go to concerts all the time, and have basically no obligations other than work, so I have tons of freedom.

That does sound pretty awesome, I’m not even gonna lie. If I were a single dude coming up in a different city, maybe I’d wish it were me, but my cards were dealt a little differently. I had a lot of fun and got into a lot of wild shit when I was young, and I’ve pretty much calmed down as I’ve gotten further into my 30’s. Hell, I haven’t even had a drop of alcohol in over 10 years.

 

[Fool's Requiem]

Why drink booze when tea exists? These are the questions I ask myself before I go to bed.

 

[Bandicoot]

I’m a seriously avid tea head. I very rarely drink alcohol. That said and true, I’m glad todays hangover has gone.

 

[Spiner202]

Why drink booze when tea exists? These are the questions I ask myself before I go to bed.

Drinking makes you cool! I can confidently say that because I've never had a drop of alcohol in my life

 

[Fool's Requiem]

I’m a seriously avid tea head. I very rarely drink alcohol. That said and true, I’m glad todays hangover has gone.

I love tea. It's up there with root beer for me.

I'm obsessed with the Harley and Sons cinnamon tea that I can find at Target and chamomile.

 

[Bandicoot]

I love tea. It's up there with root beer for me.

I'm obsessed with the Harley and Sons cinnamon tea that I can find at Target and chamomile.

I’m more of a traditionalist. Pg tips typically, but I do like a good Assam. Don’t mind Ceylon but you have to remember to use less milk. I also found a twinnings Dark Caramel which was pretty nice, but I think Asda have stopped stocking that.

 

[Mark]

Why drink booze when tea exists? These are the questions I ask myself before I go to bed.

10+ years dry here. Admittedly, I let that get the best of me. All I do and all I’ve done since then is smoke pot. It helps with my “issues” in my “brain” from getting shot at and all that fun stuff.

I’m a seriously avid tea head. I very rarely drink alcohol. That said and true, I’m glad todays hangover has gone.

I’ll make you hate me REAL quick. I’m drinking ICED tea. With SUGAR. Mixed half and half with lemonade. Don’t forget about Boston.

Drinking makes you cool! I can confidently say that because I've never had a drop of alcohol in my life

Good on you, dude. You’re not missing anything by remembering the younger years of your life. All it does is make you feel like shit after a while.

 

[Bandicoot]

’ll make you hate me REAL quick. I’m drinking ICED tea. With SUGAR. Mixed half and half with lemonade. Don’t forget about Boston.

Boston would’ve been okay but they used too much water. That was always gonna be a weak brew.

 

[Mark]

Boston would’ve been okay but they used too much water. That was always gonna be a weak brew.

Look, man… I don’t deal with New England. Those guys can stay up there. They don’t speak for the rest of us. Truthfully, you probably shouldn’t pay attention to anything north of Pennsylvania. We don’t.

 

[A Slightly New Used Server]

I do, in fact, drink my tea straight out of the harbor.

 

[Mark]

I do, in fact, drink my tea straight out of the harbor.

WHY ARE YOU PEOPLE LIKE THAT? Wicked fuckin’ weird, maaan.

 

[A Slightly New Used Server]

WHY ARE YOU PEOPLE LIKE THAT? Wicked fuckin’ weird, maaan.

Why do you think Dunkin donuts coffee got so popular? Everything is better than salty tea harbor.

 

[Mark]

Why do you think Dunkin donuts coffee got so popular? Everything is better than salty tea harbor.

Hey, I love DD. They’re the only other coffee I’ll buy outside of our local chain. You MIGHT have encountered Royal Farms in PA, DE, or NJ if you’ve went that far south in recent years. Those are the furthest northern states I’ve seen them in, they’re making more of a trek south. Last time I was in New England I was up in Connecticut, the DD’s down here don’t have nearly as good coffee.

 

[Fool's Requiem]

I’m more of a traditionalist. Pg tips typically, but I do like a good Assam. Don’t mind Ceylon but you have to remember to use less milk. I also found a twinnings Dark Caramel which was pretty nice, but I think Asda have stopped stocking that.

I don't like Twinnings' tea. There's a diner here in STL that has some random cheapo brand of black tea that tastes better than Twinnings' stuff.

All black tea gets honey from me. I don't use milk or sugar... Definitely no sweetener shit, either.

 

[Boots]

I got my BA in English Lit in 2007. I've been working in Engineering Consulting for about 15 years now (I'm 37). I'm a Project Administrator/Coordinator, primarily on energy projects these days. Its a solid gig and I rarely work more than 40 hrs/wk. I mostly WFH since March 2020.

I wasted my 20s with the wrong idiot in a progressively unhealthy and unhappy relationship, but fortunately we never married, so splitting after 10 years wasn't too hard. It was the best decision I ever made. And I got to keep the cat.

5 years ago I got together with a friend I met in highschool. We were close friends for years, but the timing was never right, and then I moved from Michigan to Chicago and later to Denver. In 2018 he moved from Michigan to Colorado to be with me and proposed last September (at a 50ft waterfall in Munising, the UP of Michigan). He works hard and communicates well. It's healthy and awesome and he's still my best friend.

When we're not working, we play card games and computer games. We like to go to concerts and distilleries, and love taking road trips. No kids and no plans to ever have them. Living debt free and saving up to buy a home.

 

[Mark]

I got my BA in English Lit in 2007. I've been working in Engineering Consulting for about 15 years now (I'm 37). I'm a Project Administrator/Coordinator, primarily on energy projects these days. Its a solid gig and I rarely work more than 40 hrs/wk. I mostly WFH since March 2020.

I wasted my 20s with the wrong idiot in a progressively unhealthy and unhappy relationship, but fortunately we never married, so splitting after 10 years wasn't too hard. It was the best decision I ever made. And I got to keep the cat.

5 years ago I got together with a friend I met in highschool. We were close friends for years, but the timing was never right, and then I moved from Michigan to Chicago and later to Denver. In 2018 he moved from Michigan to Colorado to be with me and proposed last September (at a 50ft waterfall in Munising, the UP of Michigan). He works hard and communicates well. It's healthy and awesome and he's still my best friend.

When we're not working, we play card games and computer games. We like to go to concerts and distilleries, and love taking road trips. No kids and no plans to ever have them. Living debt free and saving up to buy a home.

That’s unfortunate that you sank that much time into what ended up being a bad relationship, but I can safely say that you’re not alone in making shitty decisions in that department… I’ve made too many. The important thing is that you’ve learned, and find yourself in a relationship now where you’re valued and respected… and after dealing with what you’ve dealt with in the past, you’re going to appreciate and respect what you have now more because of it. That’s not to say you wouldn’t have appreciated and respected it had you not ridden the emotional rollercoaster that is a tumultuous relationship, but as I’ve realized… a good relationship is that much more profound after a string of bad ones. Congratulations on your engagement, and I wish you guys all the best.

 

[Boots]

That’s unfortunate that you sank that much time into what ended up being a bad relationship, but I can safely say that you’re not alone in making shitty decisions in that department… I’ve made too many. The important thing is that you’ve learned, and find yourself in a relationship now where you’re valued and respected… and after dealing with what you’ve dealt with in the past, you’re going to appreciate and respect what you have now more because of it. That’s not to say you wouldn’t have appreciated and respected it had you not ridden the emotional rollercoaster that is a tumultuous relationship, but as I’ve realized… a good relationship is that much more profound after a string of bad ones. Congratulations on your engagement, and I wish you guys all the best.

Oh for sure, I agree about appreciating the light now having been in the dark. I have said in the past I don't think I could relate to/date/be close friends with a person who hasn't had trauma or struggle in their life. Do those people even exist? The ones who grew up in non-abusive households who have never known loss, dealt with addiction, depression or personal turmoil? Those happy shiny people aren't real, right?

 

[Mark]

Oh for sure, I agree about appreciating the light now having been in the dark. I have said in the past I don't think I could relate to/date/be close friends with a person who hasn't had trauma or struggle in their life. Do those people even exist? The ones who grew up in non-abusive households who have never known loss, dealt with addiction, depression or personal turmoil? Those happy shiny people aren't real, right?

Not in my world they’re not. I’ve learned that the ones that feign perfection are often the most troubled ones, because they either don’t know or are in denial about how deep the shit really gets… and they’re wearing flip-flops. You’re still here, though, and that’s what matters. There are TONS of people that never made it to our age from far less than what we endured, just like there are people out there in their 80’s that overcame obstacles we could never imagine. It’s all in how we deal with it… and you’re dealing, and making the best of it.

 

[Nebulous]

What's been going on with everyone of late? Anything interesting? Let's have ourselves a nice little chat thread

Trying to stay out of the heat!

 

[Crystal]

Trying to stay out of the heat!

Ugh, yeah, the damn heat here... terrible

 

[Nebulous]

Ugh, yeah, the damn heat here... terrible

I am outside most of the day so trying to resist the urge to drive my work truck into a brick wall going 100 mph