How'd you meet you SO?

[Jawneh]

From reading through all of the catch up threads here, it appears that quite a few of us are in some kind of a mutually agreed upon relationship, whether ratified by a magistrate or not yet. The thing I'm curious about is how did it happen. We all were on GW during the time when long distance relationships thanks to the internet became much easier and more pheasible than ever before. We did have quite a few weddings on GW too, so there are some who met a person that made bodies excrete various chemical compounds that led to them eventually meetings.

So were any of the GW couples still here? Did any of the rest of you find your SO online and through what means? And is there still folks here who went the tried and true way of picking up someone at a bar?

Just to start off, I found my wife in an mmo called MapleStory. Just played together at first, became closer and started chatting more and more. Later after after at least 2-3 years while I was doing nothing productive still back in Finland, I came over to visit her in the US. I spent three months here and pretty much right after I had went back we both knew we wanted to start a life together. Fast forward over a year of immigration bureaucracy (man was there some BS) I moved to the US, got married, and been with her for over 12 years now.

Also before her, I did have some other online relationships as well. One maybe possibly with someone who was also on GW, but unless they come here and say it was them, I'll stay tight lipped about it. Not sure how they feel about it after all these years so I better not make any unnecessary messes.

 

[aiat_gamer]

One of my mutual friends contacted me on gtalk (anyone remember that?) Because she needed some help with her English course. I went offline for the exams for about 2 weeks and when I came back she had left me like 20 messages worried where I was.

I thought there might be something, but I was way over in Finland and she was in Iran. But we talked more and more and I met her when I went back one summer, decided we should get married, my parents were entirely against it. I thought it was over because of the traditional crap in Iran, but her mom actually came through and gave an ok without needing my parents to be involved.

So I got married without anyone knowing except two of close friends, later my parents found out, threw me out of entire family and their will so when they passed away I did not get anything and everything went to my sister.
But frankly I did not and do not care, things are going ok for me and the wife and although I am pretty much alone in the world without contact with any family (close or otherwise), I do not really mind, things are pretty fine overall.

 

[shortkut]

I fell asleep in class in undergrad. She woke me up, and we started writing notes to each other during class and chatting on AIM almost every night. One day she was hanging out with a friend and he suggested she invite me over so we can all go to a bar. I get to her house and after hanging at her place for about 30 minutes, he suddenly mentioned he wasn’t feeling good and left, turning this into our first date. He was a groomsman at our wedding 5 years later

 

[Mark]

I met mine when she was 6 and I was 9 (niiice). Her grandma worked at the elementary school we attended as an aide, she became friends with my mom, and we ended up walking back and forth to school as kids. Being older, I was charged with keeping an eye on and looking out for her and her older sister.

We lost touch when she moved out to the county, and reconnected on Facebook at the beginning of the pandemic. After talking for a while, we decided to hang out at her place one day, and we’ve been inseparable ever since. We’re two entirely different people, she’s loud, obnoxious and sociable, and I’m the silent type (believe it or not). She’s into bright colors, bright clothes, bright makeup. I literally look like I wear the same clothes every single day because all I own is an army of plain black shirts and blue jeans. We’re a textbook odd couple, and I love it. When we’re out in public, she’s smiling and engaging people… while I’m just… not. I have no idea how we work, but we do, and it’s the best relationship I’ve ever been in.

I spent a lot of years with the wrong women. Feels good to finally get it right, but at the same time… it makes me feel like that much more of a dumbass for all the times I got it wrong.

 

[The Eye in the Sky!]

I fell asleep in class in undergrad. She woke me up, and we started writing notes to each other during class and chatting on AIM almost every night. One day she was hanging out with a friend and he suggested she invite me over so we can all go to a bar. I get to her house and after hanging at her place for about 30 minutes, he suddenly mentioned he wasn’t feeling good and left, turning this into our first date. He was a groomsman at our wedding 5 years later

Gotta love those people that smoothly set things up. Big props to him.

Mine is boring. I met her freshman year in high school - I thought it was funny that she was 13 in high school. We didn't start dating until senior year when we were both 17 but we were friends and I was oblivious that she actually had a crush on me the whole time.

I look back - her best friend and my good friend were dating and they would always invite me to join them places and my wife would be there, too. I just thought it was coincidence until senior year when my best friend just straight up told me that she wants me to ask her out - she had been calling him asking for ways to make it known because I'm too stupid to figure it out. She had always had boyfriends throughout high school so I thought she wasn't interested but he told me she wasn't waiting for me but hoped I would finally figure it out.

Even after that it took me 2 weeks and she just came up to me and said "lets go on a date this weekend and will you go to prom with me?" and I said "uh, ok" and it has been 21 years being together since then.

 

[shortkut]

Gotta love those people that smoothly set things up. Big props to him.

It took him about 30 minutes to decide I wasn’t a murder or anything like that and decided to bounce

Even after that it took me 2 weeks and she just came up to me and said "lets go on a date this weekend and will you go to prom with me?" and I said "uh, ok" and it has been 21 years being together since then.

Love it. That’s how oblivious I was around the time my wife and I started dating

 

[Mark]

Love it. That’s how oblivious I was around the time my wife and I started dating

I still don’t think mine likes me. She says otherwise, but I can’t see what she sees. Obliviousness is a wild thing.

 

[shortkut]

I still don’t think mine likes me. She says otherwise, but I can’t see what she sees. Obliviousness is a wild thing.

Sometimes my wife tells me: “I love you, but I don’t like you right now”

 

[Mark]

Sometimes my wife tells me: “I love you, but I don’t like you right now”

My go-to line is “what the fuck is wrong with you?” when she says she loves me, and “I ain’t dealing with you” when she’s trying to be cute. Polar opposites, dude. Polar. Opposites.

 

[Tirith]

Met my current wife while playing a phone location based game (not pokemon go). Hooked up, started dating, moved in together, 7 years later, got married at the Taco Bell in vegas.

She's just as much a gamer as I am, and this one is a ton better for me than my ex wife was....

 

[Mark]

Met my current wife while playing a phone location based game (not pokemon go). Hooked up, started dating, moved in together, 7 years later, got married at the Taco Bell in vegas.

She's just as much a gamer as I am, and this one is a ton better for me than my ex wife was....

Your wife is infinitely more awesome than your ex, and I’ve met her once compared to the countless times I’ve met that other evil thing.

 

[A Slightly New Used Server]

We met on Tinder. She said she almost swiped left but one of my pictures gave her a good vibe.

The only thing in my profile was "you can eat my pizza" and the only in hers was "pineapples are in my head" (her favorite song). My opening line was "pineapples in your head? How many can you fit in there?" And she responded with "a lot, when they're in season!"

We started dating, moved in together a year and a half in, and got married 2 years after that.

 

[Mark]

We met on Tinder. She said she almost swiped left but one of my pictures gave her a good vibe.

The only thing in my profile was "you can eat my pizza" and the only in hers was "pineapples are in my head" (her favorite song). My opening line was "pineapples in your head? How many can you fit in there?" And she responded with "a lot, when they're in season!"

We started dating, moved in together a year and a half in, and got married 2 years after that.

This makes it sound like y’all are one of those couples that has REALLY dumb conversations that would make others turn their head and look if they overheard… which is awesome. Couples like that are the best, because you know they’ve got more inside jokes than anything.

 

[Fire Queen]

my fiancee and i are also a dating app success story, though we met on bumble. i'd been using it off and on for about a year and a half by that point--i had just gotten out of a pretty long relationship and started transitioning around the same time so i just wanted practice meeting people and going on dates. made a couple of friends through it but nothing romantic ever really happened because i wanted to give myself some time after that last relationship

we both had ren faire pictures in our profile and her music listing was impeccable. carly rae jepsen, fleetwood mac, weird al, and lemon demon just to name a few. our first date was to mellow mushroom and the cat cafe. our first kiss was after the third date. even if i wasn't actively looking for a relationship (she very much was) we were such a good match that i couldn't not date her. we agreed to "officially" start dating on february 29th so that we could always joke about only having an anniversary once every four years. 2/29 of next year is when we plan to get legally married lol. since we managed to meet before the pandemmy hit we were able to endure it together and i moved in with her in august of that year because the lease in my apartment was up at the same time they needed a new housemate because theirs moved out. how's that for convenient?

what i didn't learn until later is that she had downloaded the app herself literally a couple of days before matching with me and i was only the second date she had gone on. after our first date she went home to her roommate who was like "so how did your date go" and she jokingly said "oh it went good. we're gonna get married" like kinda half joking but also she was right. she deleted the app like a week after that and the rest is history.

 

[Boots]

Short version:
A mutual friend introduced us.

Long version:
I met my friend Erin through a summer music theater program.

He met my friend Erin while screwing around online after school one day with his buddy Will. There was a website called Spin the Bottle which was kind of like Omegle but just chat. They met her through that, and after learning they were roughly the same age and only lived 15 miles apart, they exchanged AIM screen names.

He chatted with Erin and 2 of our other friends on AIM before Erin tried to set him up with me. The big selling point was that he was a boy scout. Erin had a boyfriend. She actually ended up marrying him a few years ago, after about 20 years together.

We chatted on AIM and conversed via Live Journal. Then we all met up for a group hang downtown (suburbia). It was supposed to be movies in the park that night, but it was music downtown instead. So it was just a bunch of theater nerds from four different local high schools running around a park, chasing ducks, unhooking each other's bras, going to DQ, and roaming the downtown area. He scratched my car hood with his goth shorts that had about 20 zippers.

That was summer of 2003. It was a pretty pivotal year for me. I was 17 and just spent a month in Germany on an exchange trip. There was a lot of alcohol on that trip. It was a life-changing experience. And then I come home and meet him.

But we didn't date (despite him wanting to), because I was in a stupid secret online long distance relationship with a guy who was too old and no good for me. So he stepped aside and let me make my mistakes, but was still a great friend. We even worked together for about a year and a half. He was my second kiss ever. I just kept pushing my feelings for him down, choosing the fantasy of an online romance. Dumb fucking teenager. So we remained close friends. I met several of his girlfriends, and I'd feel jealous, but they were cool.

I moved away in 2008 and again in 2010 I moved even further away (and in with the online boyfriend). We lost touch, only exchanging a few messages a year.

In 2017 he messaged me that he was going to be in town. He was coming to Denver on vacation with his girlfriend of 7 years. They were coming out for a long weekend to meet 2 long time online gaming buddies, one from Wyoming, the other from England. So they flew in and they all stayed in an Airbnb together. Sunday night I arrive at the Airbnb with that same no-good boyfriend. The Englishman had already boarded his flight home, so I didn't get to meet him, but I got to meet the gaming friend from Wyoming.

I walked in and we hugged and in a jolt all my feelings came back. That night there was a lot of drinking. After losing in Catan, my boyfriend was a bump on a log sitting by himself on the couch with his Switch for the bulk of the night. He agreed to be DD. My friend's girlfriend drank a bit but went to bed early. Hours later, I drunkenly kissed his neck goodbye. The next morning I had to fly out to Iowa for work and I was very hungover. But a week apart from everything gave me time to think. 3 weeks later I broke up with him. 3 weeks after that my friend broke up with his girlfriend.

I was unhappy in my relationship. The resentment had built up so much he'd been sleeping on the couch for months. Our sex life was trash. I was in debt because of him, he didn't work, and he never contributed towards rent or shared living expenses. I wanted a real partner, and I didn't want kids while he wanted to be a stay-at-home dad. My friend wasn't happy either. He didn't see a future in his relationship. He decided he never wanted kids when he was 18, and she has a special needs brother and no other siblings. That was a future obligation he didn't want to sign up for.

6 weeks after the breakup, the ex finally had a steady job and he could pay rent alone, so I was able to move out. 2-3 months later we started dating long distance. 6 months later he was laid off from his job and he moved across the country to be with me.

5 and a half years later we are engaged and the friend from Wyoming is one of my best friends.

 

[Friel]

Met in school, found her pretty annoying for a year. Went in to 6th form and she ended up in my IT class sitting beside me. Something changed very fast and we became close. As soon as school would finish for the day we'd text till we got back in to school the next day. That went on for over a year till we eventually had a drunken kiss when we were 17, and here we are 14 years later. Bought our own house 4 years ago, have a 3 year old son and we get married next year. I still find her pretty annoying.

 

[Tirith]

I understand the annoying part. My wife has a few quirks that annoy me, but I can deal with them. If I couldn't, I'd have never said "I do" in front of the Chalupa Supreme Leader.

 

[Raine]

+1 in the MMO column here. Started playing Final Fantasy XI in April of 2013, met her a couple of weeks in. We're both huge nerds and enjoy hunting Xbox achievements, so she joined the LinkShell I had started. We played together for a couple of months, she poofed for a couple months, then came back and we did endgame events together until early 2015. We were pretty friendly, but, nothing close to romantic or even doing one-on-one conversations since the entirety of that game was built around doing things as a group.

After I stopped playing FFXI (for the first time...), I bounced around a little and then ended up starting Final Fantasy XIV. She and a couple others from FFXI came with; most of the others stopped after about a week. Those that didn't then went different ways after a pretty heated fallout between me and some random dude, a friend-of-a-friend type deal. Ended up being just me, her and two mutual friends that hung with it doing our own thing. Like two or three months into XIV she decided she wanted the in-game wedding dress, and was going to create a second character to e-marry herself for it. One of the two mutual friends, whom I'd known for around a decade at that point, then suggested she e-marry me instead. Why? Because it would be funny, apparently. According to her I said "Sure, wouldn't be the craziest thing I've done today" and... yeah.

Turns out she took that a little more seriously than I was at the time. We started dating for real not long after, started doing extended trips/vacations back and forth, and finally moved in together a year or so later. Been living together for 6-ish years now, recently got engaged, and fight like cats and dogs nightly when I begin ranting and raving about some asinine thing or another. Couldn't be happier.

 

[Tommy Boy]

Short version: Tinder

Long version: When I first moved to NYC on my own in 2020, it had been two years since my messy breakup with my previous girlfriend of 3.5 years. Still wasn't ready to date, had a lot to work on with myself. I tried out Tinder and Bumble a few months in, and had some okay but kind of crazy dates? Nothing CRAZY, but I guess I was under the impression that people wanted to date and not just fuck. I didn't really want to just fuck someone and have it fizzle out, I was actually looking for companionship. After dating a handful more of people, and one girl who didn't want to hook up after NINE dates, I finally matched with "Lexi" on Tinder in May 2021. She was a really cute filmmaker with the caption "looking for a mild flu-type connection with someone" and then some mushroom emojis. Hmm, works for me. So we started messaging back and forth, all was going good. Two weeks of messaging, I got in a small bike crash and busted my knee open. I showed her, and she wanted to make sure I was okay and maybe have a few drinks, so she invited me to her place. We hadn't gone out at all before this, or met, because of COVID. But she was fine with me coming over because I was fully vaccinated and not sick. One thing led to another and we ended up sleeping together that night - right around the time I asked her if she wanted to play Nintendo Switch (lmao). We began casually dating after that, but after my big scooter accident in July 2021, I committed to her in a more serious way.

At the beginning of August, she told me that she normally travels home once a year but hasn't been able to return because of COVID lockdowns. She is Chinese, born and raised there, and is not a US citizen. She just came here for school in 2016 and had been here ever since, with a valid VISA until 2029. She asked if I would stay with her while she left, since she would be gone at maximum - 5 months. I obliged, since I had very strong feelings for her, and have been without a girl longer than 5 months - no sweat! Well, thanks to China, when she arrived, her passport was confiscated and the passport office was closed. She knew it was close to expiring, but she thought she would still have more time to use it. Long story short, she has been in China ever since. August 24th, 2021 is when she left, and is the last time I've seen her in person.

Thankfully, technology allows us to be together every morning and night. We FaceTime twice daily - about 9am-1pm, and then 9pm-1am. We watch movies together, play games, talk, whatever. It's been a really nice experience because I think I've always been someone to be able to handle a LDR, but it obviously gets old after a while. And the lack of sex gets old even faster. But I had my companionship, and that was honestly all I really have been looking for for....years. So I was content the entire time.

She returns to the USA on Monday. This Monday. Finally. So I have about two years worth of catching up to do with her. It's not public yet, but we are definitely getting married and I am definitely getting her a green card ASAP lol.

 

[Boots]

Omg Tommy. I'm so happy she's coming back home finally. Congrats!

 

[Tommy Boy]

Omg Tommy. I'm so happy she's coming back home finally. Congrats!

Thank you!! It still doesn't feel real yet.

 

[Mark]

Omg Tommy. I'm so happy she's coming back home finally. Congrats!

That means Tommy’s gonna leave us, though. He’ll be too cool for us.

For real, congrats dude… I couldn’t imagine. That’s gotta be hard on y’all.

 

[shortkut]

She returns to the USA on Monday. This Monday. Finally. So I have about two years worth of catching up to do with her. It's not public yet, but we are definitely getting married and I am definitely getting her a green card ASAP lol.

Many yays and congratulations… but don’t let her join GWF until after you propose, if you want it to remain a secret

 

[Marlfox]

Nice stories, folks!

Mine is that I was an organiser for a social group on meetup.com that arranged events for people who want to make more friends and socialise. I’d been doing it on and off for 4 years. So every week I’d host a meetup at different pubs around the city. I’d made a bunch of good friends that way, even had a few dates, but never anything that went the distance. Didn’t mind much as I knew my events helped people, but it was still a background aim for me to meet someone.

My future partner comes along to a meetup where I’d accidentally hosted at a venue closed for refurbishment, so had to ask everyone very short notice to meet at a bar next to it instead. She arrives a bit late, I welcome her in and immediately like the look of her, but we just have a brief chat as I play it cool and sit her down with people I think she’ll get on with. Don’t manage to speak to her again that evening, I’ve put myself with newbies who don’t know anyone and need a hand to get past the awkward ice breakers.

Next meetup I host, she’s there. Shows up early to speak to me alone before others arrive and I need to enter host mode. We actually get to know each other a bit, speaking for 15 mins before anyone else arrives. I start to think maybe she likes me and I could try asking her out. Once everyone else is there, it’s a group conversation and there’s no way I’m putting her on the spot, so I leave it for next time.

Another week and she comes to a third meetup. This time she doesn’t let me out of her sight. As I do my host duties, checking people have places to sit and a few people to talk to, she just follows me around all evening. Sits close next to me, joins whatever group I join, clearly enjoying it. Now is the time but I take the chicken route, I get her number but don’t mention dates.

A day or so later, I ask her out in a message. She says yes. Amazing dates, we move in together after 3 months, now we’ve been together 6 years and have a baby boy turning 1 next week. We just love to be together and it’s awesome.

 

[Boots]

What kind of meetup group? Board games or something?

 

[Meathos]

I met her on the forums. She was only active for a bit, but returned before the shutdown and contacted me. We did the long distance thing for 6 years. She lived with me in the UK(got to meet Marl there), and we got married in 2018.

She's been up here since then.

 

[Marlfox]

What kind of meetup group? Board games or something?

Vast majority were pub socials. My hosty job was done once everyone had finished their first drink. That was the critical point when people were past their initial anxiety and able to enjoy chatting for the rest of the evening. In the summers I hosted picnics too, the BYOB kind.

 

[Tubby23]

We met through work at my part-time uni job, I had a crush on her for a long time. I also thought I was really smooth and that no one knew that. Turns out it was about as obvious as it could be.

As luck would have it, I moved into my first real job at the same time as she was also moving on to another company and the staff threw us a combined going-away party at one of their houses. I found out our just about everyone knew I was infatuated which while at first a little embarrassing did give me the push in the right direction to ask her out.

We've now been dating over 10 years, living together for 9 and have travelled a fair amount together as well. We got engaged last October and hope to get married in the next couple of years.

No plans for kids or anything like that but she is the perfect match for me, all of my flaws are her strengths and she has definitely helped me grow from a pretty immature 20 year old to hopefully a good man for society.

 

[Holly]

We both worked for Geek Squad. GS has an internal forum where agents ask questions and also shitpost. He was one of the most prevalent shitposters, an assessment he'd agree with. Noticed he worked for a store like an hour from where I worked. Decided to stop in to say hi. Did NOT expect that someday we'd be married with a kid, did not expect to start a relationship with him at all. I just stopped in to say hi.

Gave the poor front counter clerk a heart attack though. I was wearing a GS branded windbreaker and she mistook me for someone from corporate. It had just happened that day was chillier than I'd expected and my work jacket was the only one in the car.

 

[Smacktard]

Another app-based success story here. I live in Saudi so it's one of the few ways to meet people. I was in the capital for a two-week work assignment and we matched two days before I was supposed to leave. Good banter, and the night before I had to leave we went on a date together.

Kept in contact, I started visiting her in Riyadh once a month, and even though I never thought I'd do the long-distance thing again, it developed into a serious relationship and we eventually got married.

She said she couldn't decide whether to swipe right or left on me, and kept closing the app whenever I would appear. Eventually she swiped right. I had Tinder gold, I could see that she'd liked me. I had swiped left on her (she only had a drawing as a picture, which is a no for me, albeit very common for women in Saudi), but thanks to Tinder gold (cringe comment) I saw her again, decided to read her profile, and was really into her sense of humor.

A couple of years and a marriage later, my workplace agreed to relocate me to Riyadh and we've been living together since. She and her family visited Canada for the first time last month to meet my fam and friends. It was perfect.

 

[Kat]

When we’re out in public, she’s smiling and engaging people… while I’m just… not.

Hahaha, this is just like me and my girlfriend. The first time we went for a walk in a park together, strangers would keep saying hi to us or other little comments. After the third time, she asked all confused and exasperated, "why are all these people talking to us?!" I didn't think anything of it because that happens to me everywhere I go because I smile at people. Apparently she does not.

She returns to the USA on Monday. This Monday.

That's amazing!! I'm so glad you're back together now after all that time!

You all have adorable and heartwarming stories. I've only been dating my girlfriend for a few months, so ending TBD, but I'll share anyway since it's a funny story.

My usual MO is to pick people up in bars, because I'm lazy and it's easy. Unfortunately, I'm mostly attracted to women and this tactic almost exclusively nets me men. I decided to do something different to get different results, and my best idea was to *shudder* use a dating app.

So I downloaded something geared towards queer women and got to swiping. I quickly felt overwhelmed; I was used to my pool being mostly people I wasn't physically attracted to (i.e. men), so everybody seemed smoking hot in comparison. I had no idea how to judge compatibility with a dating profile, and everyone seemed reasonable. So I just started swiping right on almost everybody since I had no idea how to make a decision. I remember one woman standing out and hoping we'd match, but I had no idea how likely that was, so I quickly put it out of my mind.

Due to my indiscriminate swiping, I spent the next few days getting waaay too many matches, all of which were terrible. I was nearly at my wit's end when I saw a match with her. I messaged her immediately, and the chemistry was somehow instantly palpable even over text. She was playful and flirty and heavily implied she wanted to meet up.

That's great, right? Surely I suggested a date and it progressed normally from there? Nope! I completely panicked, and told her I had to run to a meeting and would message her after. Then I stressed about what exactly to say for a day, which became a week, and the longer it was, the harder it was to go back.

At this point, I should mention our conversation centered on a squirrel in one of my photos which my friend had rescued. I'd just about worked up the courage to finally go back and continue that conversation when my friend told me his squirrel had died. My immediate reaction was, "now what am I going to do?! I can't come back after disappearing for a week to announce the squirrel is dead!!!"

So a week stretched into a month as I tried to figure out what to do. Finally I just said to myself it was never going to get easier and it was better to say ANYTHING than to keep stressing over it. I I ended up saying something like, "I'm so sorry, I'm a gigantic jerk, I just got overwhelmed by this dating app thing. I swear it wasn't personal. Are you still looking?" And luckily for me, she was, and we went out the next day.

She actually called me out about it after we'd been dating for a couple months, "haha, remember that time you completely forgot about me for a month?" I didn't want her believing that so I confessed everything. Luckily she's a good sport and found my cowardice hilarious. So much so that she still sometimes brings it up with a laugh, "I still can't believe you ran away because I flirted with you."

It's a small price to pay, I'll take it. =]

 

[Pun Damage]

This is gonna sound horrible as a nutshell:

I met my current partner when she was dating my best friend. I did not steal her from him. Times were strange in my 20s, and I ended up pining over her for ten years before she randomly reentered my life via said best friend. Said best friend is transitioning, and they had been broken up for a year by that point.

She moved from Oregon to live with me. We took a trip to Oregon last month to get her stuff and her cat, and I loved everything I saw in that state, so we're moving back to Oregon when my lease is up in March.

 

[Kat]

we're moving back to Oregon when my lease is up in March.

Good choice! I used to hate a lot on Oregon, and it certainly has its issues, but overall I'm glad to be here. What part of Oregon are you going to move to?

 

[Pun Damage]

Good choice! I used to hate a lot on Oregon, and it certainly has its issues, but overall I'm glad to be here. What part of Oregon are you going to move to?

We're aiming for the Salem area or nearby. Said trans friend will be a roommate, and we'd all like to be as close to where her medical info and support network is as possible.

 

[Kat]

I like Salem's downtown area, it's got a good variety of shops and smells way better than Portland. I'm in Hillsboro, about an hour from Salem, but I have a friend who lives there so I've been a bunch of times. There's a botanical garden near there which might be fun for you to visit in the late spring since you're not from the area and will be moving there in March.

 

[Quagmire]

Sometimes my wife tells me: “I love you, but I don’t like you right now”

My wife says this a lot to me

We met on match and it nearly didnt happen.

I had spent 6 months on match, had few dates, but nothing materialized and wasn't going to renew, I had a few days left and figured it wasnt worth trying to message anyone else. I get a poke or smile or what ever it was called, and I message her, tell her if she wants to contact me and is real (I was half afraid it was a match bot trying to get me to re-subscribe) she could contact me through email.

So not only was I almost off match, had I started a week earlier or her a week later, never would have met, I had a couple other potential relationships not form because of a choice that could have changed my status for when I met my wife

Three months earlier I message a few women online, I dont think it was match, and I was talking with both. A couple weeks before that a friend of a friend wanted to set me up with his wife's best friend. I'm not some serial dater, I can't pull it off. But he didnt get me her contact information for a couple weeks about the time the other two women message me back. Once I start talking I dont send out anymore messages but at this point Im not going to drop anyone until I've had a couple dates and decide I want to pursue someone.

One of those lead to physical faster than I expected, which then I immediately contacted the other two and said I hope I didnt lead you on (I had only met one for coffee so far and the other we had something set up), but said there was someone else I had started talking to at the same time and it moved faster than I expected and I wished them luck.

The one I kept going out with only lasted a couple weeks, which I wasnt too hurt, I wasnt sure how interested I was, and will fully admit going physical clouds my judgement temporarily. I did message one of the other two, was honest, said what happened and she would know I only see one person at a time once we've gone out a couple times, understandably she never responded.

A couple weeks before I meet my wife my friend gets married, I talk with one of the bridesmaids, we've had a few run ins and I had a crush on her. I actually had asked my friend about her a few months previously and he said he didnt think we'd make a good match. But we got a long real well, she knew I had inquired but trusted her friend's judgment. I ask her if she wants to prove our friend wrong and she says she'll think about it. She messages me and we went out a couple times, but it didnt seem to go anywhere, she didnt seem too interested, but also by the time I met my now wife, she showed more interest so I ended up pursuing her

I will full up say I wasnt as confident as I am now so while I didnt do the wait three days, etc, I wasnt as up front with my friend's friend, so maybe she took it as disinterest where I didnt want to seem over eager, but she also didnt seem overly interested at times, other than our first date. So while I dont think that would have led anywhere, those other two women could have led somewhere, if even for a short time would have had me off match and never met my wife. So a very long story about a lot of little things that could have changed the course of my life, it was already a small window for my wife and I to meet and it could have been closed by changing one decision.

 

[Pun Damage]

I like Salem's downtown area, it's got a good variety of shops and smells way better than Portland. I'm in Hillsboro, about an hour from Salem, but I have a friend who lives there so I've been a bunch of times. There's a botanical garden near there which might be fun for you to visit in the late spring since you're not from the area and will be moving there in March.

I have the possibility to meet other GWs?!

 

[Marlfox]

My wife

Wife? You aren't the real Quagmire!

 

[MrDawn]

I met my second wife on Tinder 11 months after my divorce. I didn't think we'd ever meet. She was pretty shy.

 

[Pun Damage]

No more SO, no more Oregon plans.

Oh well.

 

[TD]

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